When we were young, we were taught by our parents not to talk to strangers and not to accept any candy or whatever food from someone we don’t know since these strangers might hurt us and this is when I started doubting other people’s motives. I know that our parents are just protecting us, and as a parent myself, now I will teach the same thing to my son.
I grew up with that – not trusting someone easily, until I finished school and was already working everything changed. It started when my mom and I had a conversation and that she is asking my permission if we can lend someone (she barely knew) some money. I asked my mom if we can trust this person to return the money she is asking to borrow, and this was what she told me.
“When you were studying, I usually borrowed money from other people who barely know me too. They trusted me to return the money I borrowed even though they knew that I am a single mom and that I don’t have the capacity to return the money once I had it. If they did not granted me the money, you and your siblings will not have anything to drink and eat at that time. That’s the same situation now with this women who is asking for my help and I can see how she is struggling. I can’t sleep if I will not do something to help her. Besides if she will not return it, there is God to judge her in the end. “
Those words from my mom was the start of the change in my attitude and mind towards trusting other people. BUT, this feeling of trusting easily sometimes puts me in danger.
Okay stay with me, this is one of my unforgettable experiences of being betrayed.
I had an officemate before who asked me to help THEM get a cellphone plan. Since I have a good credit score (at that time) they asked me if they can use my name and apply the plan for them. Since (I thought) I could trust them, I did not think twice to help. My husband was in doubt of them but I still defended these people. Years passed by and I am happily staying at home when someone from a cellphone company called me and asking for my payment for an overdue
account. I was shocked when I heard that it was from the account of the people I have helped. I did not benefited from that transaction but since my name was on the contract that is why the cellphone company looked after me. I called those people who were involved and they told and promised me that they will pay their bills directly to the cellphone company. Well, that promise was BROKEN more than 10 times and that was a year ago. The transaction wasn’t closed until now. I cannot blame my husband if he is mad on what happened. I have no job and if the cellphone company is still pursuing us with the overdue transaction we will be the one to pay for it in the end.
I am telling you this story not to pity me (well, maybe just slightly) but I want to share this because I want you to know that there are advantages and disadvantages in trusting people easily. I also want to know your story and how will you know when to trust or not to trust other people.
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